Should I Talk to the Woman My Husband Had an Affair With

Many wives want to confront or talk to the other woman because doing so will take a lot of the mystery out of the image of her that you have in your mind. You fantasize that meeting her will allow you to see just who you are dealing with. Perhaps you can let her know without question that she needs to back off of your husband. Perhaps you can make her understand that her callous actions are destroying a family. Perhaps you can get the "real story" from someone who has no reason to lie. All of these things seem perfectly reasonable when they are still only in your mind, but the reality of the situation almost always turns out quite different. Sometimes, meeting with her can be a disaster and can make your situation far worse. This is a potentially seriously unhealthy situation for you, which I'll explain more below.